8 weeks ago I quit a job that frustrated me to no end. I hadn’t worked there that long and although it seemed like a less stress position at the beginning it quickly turned into a personal boundaries nightmare. It even made me re-think my entire career choice. Today is 8 weeks to the day that I said goodbye. I have learned so much more than I ever could have imaged in that amount of time. I call these 10 lessons from quitting, but I think they can apply to any part of a person’s life.
- A 9-5 job is not a career end all, be all. I grew up thinking that a suit and a 9-5 career were all I would ever need to be happy. I have to say this is the biggest myth on the planet. Finding a career option that you can call home; fills you with ambition and curiosity that is what I need. A job that you find rewarding and fulfilling is much more important that just having a 9-5 job. There are just 24 hours in a day spending 8 hours with people and a job that makes you miserable is no way to live.
- I LOVE being a MOM. Being home with my two boys and sharing in almost every moment of their lives is a happiness I can’t describe. Sure now I’m working crazy hours and trying to fit in meetings between nap times and hockey practices. But at the end of the day all my hard work is directly benefiting my clients and my family the people I love most. My son was running a CRAZY fever last night and it was just nice to know that I could take him to the doctors in the morning without having to explain to strangers what was going on in order to have the time off. My kids make me happy, and although it isn’t always easy, I love being there for them.
- I now know who goes to 9AM group classes. I used to always wonder when I worked a 9-5 job who on Earth could attend 9Am group classes at my gym. After having conversations among the women in several of my classes it would appear most are entrepreneurs. I used to think it was all stay at home moms and college students. My classes are filled with people who have made a commitment to fitness and also to their own business development. I love hearing all about their days. It makes me know that the path I am choosing is best for me.
- If you want it go and get it. These words are true for everything career, family, and fitness. If I want my son to feel that he has my undivided attention and love I give it to him. I shut off the phones and focus on him. He feels great and I feel great. If I want my business to grow I need to do the work. No one will do it for you and that voice in your head saying you can’t is wrong. If you fall 6 times yet get up 7 you will get there. This rule is also true in the fitness arena. Set goals and go accomplish them, excuses are always easier than sweat.
- I like business, it’s in my blood. I grew up in a small business and come from a long line of business owners. My best work is always done when I’m doing something I believe in. I enjoy business, I enjoy the bookkeeping, work, billing and prospecting. I love meeting with people and learning more about their businesses. I love digging into projects and finding solutions. My only wish is I would have started this journey earlier.
- I have AMAZING friends and family. Although I did get some odd looks when I said I was leaving my job without a new job lined up, everyone has been very on board with my new plans. And I love each and every one of them more for their support especially my husband
- Trial by Fire….Is REAL. If you don’t know and you try, you might get burned. Which is fine just be sure not to make the same choice again. Learn from the mistake. Remember the feeling of the burn and let it stay with you the next time you enter the situation again.
- The more you _____ the better you get at it. The blank is yours to fill in, but I promise the more time you spend with anything the better you get. Want to be a better wife/husband give it some time and work on it. Want to be happier ? Spend sometime on the things that make you glad. Want to be a better singer…sing more. Malcolm Gladwell said the cusp for being great is 10,000 hours. What is the one thing in your life you have ever spent 10,000 hours trying to get better at? Mind you that’s about 5 years worth of time.
- Panera Bread has ok coffee and WiFi. I have never come up with a great idea while sitting in a cubicle. And I would image that is true for most of us. True creativity and ideas come when you are removed from the ordinary. I’ve met lots of people who tell me they are creative, and yet I know very few people I would call innovative. Most people tend to recreate rather than create. I’m guilty as the next. And this is what I have found about Panera they have coffee and Wifi and while I’m there, I think I’m creating. Really? … instead I usually find I’m just reworking someone else’s ideas. If you really want to shake up the status quo it’s going to take a lot more than working from Panera/Starbucks/insert coffee shop here. GET OUTSIDE, go for a run, dance, build a tree fort anything that forces you to think not about other people’s ideas but about your own. Other people like “looking” busy working in coffee shops, I don’t.
- It’s OK to SAY NO! This has been the most difficult lesson to learn. It’s one I’ve always struggled with. When is enough, enough? Knowing your deal breakers is important. Knowing when you are being taken advantage of and ending it is important too. Learn this lesson with relationships and save yourself down the line. Learn it with money and you will be rich. Learn this lesson with fatty foods and your heart will thank you. Learn this lesson with your kids and someday they will thank you. We have become a society of YES people…it’s important when coming from a place of yes to also know when to say NO.
What lessons have you learned from difficult decisions?